“Will I love her?” Love & Attachment in Adoption – by Dr. Daniel Nehrbass

Posted by Lonni Swanson || Category(ies): Uncategorized

adoption will i love her“Our baby was maybe two days old and as I sat with her alone in the hospital room I completely broke my promise that I wouldn’t fall in love too soon. I’ve since managed to forgive myself!” Paul, LSS Adoptive Father 

The question “Will I love him/her?” is often top of mind for potential adoptive parents. After years of working as an adoption specialist – facilitating placements and following up through our post-adoption services – I thought Dr. Daniel Nehrbass did an excellent job of answering the question in his commentary below. The article is reprinted with permission from The Adoption Advocate, a publication created by the National Council for Adoption to educate policymakers, families, child welfare specialists, and others on today’s most relevant child welfare and adoption issues. 

The insights and issues the essay explores are especially appropriate for discussion during November, National Adoption Month. The author, Daniel Nehrbass, Ph.D., is a former pastor and professional counselor, and is executive director of Nightlight Christian Adoptions.

When my best friend heard that my wife and I were planning to adopt, he asked, “Do you think you will be able to love your child as much as you would if she were your own?”

Those of us who have adopted know that our adopted children are “our own.” Yet this question posed by my friend revealed a fear that lay within himself, and in the minds of many prospective adoptive parents.

My wife and I met when we were in the eighth grade. We married seven years later, at the age of twenty. We talked about adoption before we were married, but did not envision how large a role it would play in our life together. Three years into our marriage, we received a diagnosis that determined conception would be impossible for us.

Two years later, in the midst of the foster parent licensing process, we learned that we were pregnant. After our son’s birth, we adopted two children from foster care and had two more biological children as well, bringing us to a total of three girls and two boys in our home.

From experience I can say that it is possible to love adopted children just as much as those born to you. Yet I recognize that I cannot speak for others, nor can I tell them what is possible within their own families. If someone tells me, “I don’t think I could love an adopted child equally,” perhaps he and I should both trust his judgment. Perhaps he knows something about himself that I don’t know.

The Capacity of Love

When I used to give people the “Trust me…you can love adopted children equally” speech, I assumed that everyone was equally capable. I envisioned love primarily as an emotion. The primary change in this line of thinking occurred when I realized that love is better envisioned in terms of capacity, rather than emotion.

Think of love as a jar that holds water, or a room that holds people. Jars come in different sizes; rooms range from tiny to enormous. Capacities vary greatly. If we all have our own individual capacity for love, then I cannot speak for anyone else who wonders about their own capacity. Nor can I speak for you.

I can speak for myself, however, and I can speak of families I have counseled. Nearly all of these adoptive parents would say that they love their children with all their heart. Those who also have biological children in the home would add that they love their children equally. And most would say that they, too, have come to realize that they have great capacity for love; it is not merely a feeling, it is an ability. A choice.

Adoptive parents are not the only ones who know this, of course. Other parents know it, too. Many parents can remember a defining moment when they had to make a decision about how to think of love. For me it came almost immediately after our son, Thai, a seven-year-old Vietnamese boy from California, was placed with us. He spoke not more than fifty words of English, yet by the end of his first week, he had asked me: “Do you love me?”

No biological parent has ever been asked this question in the first week of parenthood. How was I to answer Thai? At the time I still knew very little about him. We were still getting to know one another. But when he asked me “Do you love me?” I was prepared with my answer. I gave him an immediate, confident, genuine “Yes!”

I was able to say this honestly because—long before he asked—I had come to the understanding that my love is a capacity, not merely an emotion. When I told Thai that I loved him, I expressed the following genuine commitments:

  • I am committed to you for life, no matter what.
  • I want what is best for you.
  • I will make great sacrifices for you.
  • I will forgive you when you misbehave.
  • I will demand nothing, but I will cherish even the smallest expression of love in return.

Love is not some external force that comes out of nowhere: it is your own capacity, which grows with time and work and commitment. If you have this capacity, you will love your child.

Love is Commitment

When my wife and I put our firstborn child in the car and drove away from the hospital, I thought, “I can’t believe they’re letting us do this! Why are they letting us take this child?” I knew that no one from the hospital was ever going to call to see if we were okay. They were done with us. It was up to us to care for our baby’s every need.

I can say with complete honesty that my love for our son during his first week of his life was no more or less than the love I just described for our adopted seven-year-old during his first week in our home. I loved holding him, and felt overwhelmed with positive emotions—feelings of joy, tenderness, and delight. But my love for our newborn son was primarily felt in terms of commitment—just like my commitment to our adopted son. My love for him meant that I was committed to him for life, prepared to make sacrifices for him, determined to do whatever was best for him, and always ready to forgive him unconditionally.

So how will you answer your adopted child when she asks, early on, “Do you love me?” I define love in terms of commitment, and action. Love is acting lovingly. Love is commitment. If you can truly commit to loving your child, then you will.

[Dr. Nehrbass made further observations that are excerpted below in the interest of space.]



  • If you understand love as your child’s unique way of reaching out to you, then you will recognize his love for you.
  • As you share your life together, and prove trustworthy in meeting your child’s needs, she will love you.
  • People with a large capacity to love do not ask what is easier for them, but what is better for those they love. If you can do this, then you will love your child.
  • If you can love unconditionally, then you will love your child.
  • Love is sometimes much easier to see and understand in retrospect than in the moment. If you understand this about love, you will see your child’s love for you.
  • If you are patient, you will see your child’s love for you.
  • Empathy is another essential part of love. If you can see yourself in the face of your adopted child, then you will love her.
  • The love of a parent is always focused outward. It demands nothing; it only gives. If you take this approach to your child, then you will love him.
  • Conclusion: Love is focused on others.



Lutheran Social Services of the South has counseled individuals about making adoption plans for more than 60 years and was one of the first agencies to offer open adoption. We believe that adoption is a lifelong process and offer post adoption services that include:

  • Ongoing Intermediary Services - provides birth and adoptive families a way to maintain ongoing contact without fully disclosing their last names and addresses.
  • De-identified Social and Medical History - provides all non-identifying health, education, social and genetic history information from the record to an adult adoptee.
  • Passive Adoption Registration - enables one member of the adoption triad (birth parents, adoptive parents, adult adoptees) to register their desire for contact with another triad member should that party register as well.  If both parties register, contact is facilitated after each has completed the one hour of individual counseling required by Texas Family Code 162.413.
  • Search and Reunion Services – initiates a search for one member of the adoption triad at the request of another member. 

More than 8,000 adoptions have been completed through our domestic, international, and foster-to-adopt adoption programs. For information about Lutheran Adoption Services in Texas, visit  or call 512-459-1000; 855-482-3678 (after hours).



Finding Pieces of the Puzzle: Adoption Search & Reunion, Part 1

Posted by Lonni Swanson || Category(ies): Uncategorized

 Erin & Angie“You must be prepared for the realm of possibilities that you might find, and you need to know how to prepare yourself for the emotional ups and downs that will happen!” – Erin, adoptee

We all love a good adoption search-and-reunion story. But what happens after that first find, that first phone call, that first hug? Can it possibly work out for all parties involved?

Not all adoption reunions are successful. But when the reunion meets the needs of all parties involved, it can add a new dimension and level of understanding to the lives of both adoptees and their birth families.

Lutheran Adoption Services of Texas (a program of Lutheran Social Services [LSS]) has facilitated more than 8,000 adoptive placements since 1944 and can initiate adoption searches for all members of an adoption triad when the adoption was completed through LSS:

  • an adult adoptee searching for a birth parent,
  • a birth parent searching for an adult adoptee
  • or an adoptive family searching for a birth parent.

Contact usually begins with a letter or a phone call and evolves based upon the mutual consent of both parties. The following story chronicles the search and reunion of Erin, a 27-year-old kindergarten teacher, and Angie, her birth mom. Both currently live in Austin, Texas.

Erin & Angie’s story:

When Erin was 15, her parents presented her with a hand-written letter from her biological mother.  They were planning to give it to Erin when she turned 18, but she had become so inquisitive about where she came from, they decided to give it to her early.

Angie was only 16 when she became pregnant and the birth father Trey was 18. The couple broke up when Angie went off to college.  She wrote that she loved Erin, wanted a better life for her daughter and would like to meet her someday when Erin was ready. She wasn’t.

Erin hesitated to proceed with an inquiry for years, until her 24th birthday when her friends raised money for the “gift of a search.” Erin waited approximately a year as she and her family became more comfortable with the idea of reaching out to Angie.

“I think I waited until just the right time, and it all worked out the way it was supposed to,” said Erin. “At 18, I was definitely not mature enough.”

In July 2012, when Erin turned 25, she went to Lutheran Adoption Services and opened the case. The following November, she initiated contact with Angie and sent her a letter using LSS as the intermediary. They first began communicating via texts and by sending photos. “The main reason I felt I needed to find my birth parents was to thank them for the opportunity they gave me to lead a great life,” Erin said. Erin grew up in South Austin and attended Bowie High School; she has an older brother who is also adopted.

On January 2, 2013, when it came time to meet Angie for the first time, Erin was “really nervous.” They arranged to meet for dinner; Erin brought along two friends who had been her support group throughout the entire journey and Angie came with her husband. “It was all very natural and comfortable as we sat there for three hours talking about life, families and our interests,” Erin said. Erin learned that Angie has twin girls (they were 15 at the time), and the girls have known about her since they were 10.

Another interesting discovery was that the year prior to their first meeting, Erin had had dinner with Angie’s stepbrother and didn’t realize it! They had been living close to each other for a long time. “Our paths crossed many times and we never knew it,” Erin said.

History in a Trunk

A nice surprise for Erin was the trunk Angie presented to her made by her birth grandfather.  It was filled with things about her birth father Trey and birthday and Christmas cards that Angie had written to Erin every year and just saved in the trunk. There was also a diary about her feelings about placing her daughter for adoption. Angie’s father was most influential in having the baby adopted, and the trunk included a five-page letter written by him in 1997, apologizing and explaining his actions.

Angie told Erin that every year on Erin’s birthday, the family sat down together and talked about her. Angie said she had given up hope of a reunion once Erin turned 21 and she hadn’t heard from her. “I had always heard it was better to let the child make contact when ready,” Angie said.

Completing the Circle

The next step came when Erin finally met Trey. She found his brother on Facebook and reached out to him via a personal message with her email address. Trey’s brother passed along the info. Trey was so happy she contacted him. “I’ve been waiting for this moment all my life” he said. Erin met him and his wife for the first time for dinner in August 2013. Erin learned she has a half-sister who is 22.

“He is a big teddy bear of a guy, 6’3, and sitting across from him I thought, ‘I have his eyes!’” She learned he had been a baseball player who had injured his knee and wasn’t able to pursue an athletic career after that. Erin said that explained a lot, “I’m athletic and no one else in my family is. I played volleyball and softball throughout my school career and still play co-ed softball.”

Today …

Erin talks regularly with Angie and her family and sees them often. She also gets together with Trey about once a month.

What would she recommend to others curious about searching for their birth parents?  “Go for it, but you need to keep an open mind to all of the different people involved in the decision and the relationships that could be affected,” said Erin. “My adoptive mom and dad will always be my first priority.” Erin feels very lucky about how her search and reunion have turned out but knows it doesn’t always work out so well.

Erin’s biggest surprise, after having played out every scenario in her mind beforehand, was how many people knew about her and wanted to meet her. She has also developed a relationship with the grandfather who was instrumental in her adoption.

Erin concluded, “It has been very healing for all of us, and my birth family has peace of mind too knowing they did the right thing for me. Beyond having my questions answered and seeing where I came from, the most healing thing was to be able to say THANK YOU!”

Look for Part 2, Angie’s Story, next week.

For additional information about adoption and reunification searches, or to begin an inquiry through Lutheran Adoption Services of Texas, call 800-396-4611 or contact Tanya Graham: [email protected]. [Note: Texas Family Code 162.413 requires that individuals initiating an adoption search must have an hour of counseling before a reunion can be facilitated.]


Celebrating Halloween with FIT Team in Laredo

Posted by Lonni Swanson || Category(ies): Foster Care, Foster In Texas, Foster Parents
Left to right: Oscar Guerra, Area Director (rapper); Monica Bondoc, Placement Coordinator (Minnie Mouse), Linda Mendiola, Regional Recruiter (’60s hippie girl); and Marissa Martinez, Family Service Worker (2nd Minnie Mouse)

Left to right: Oscar Guerra, Area Director (rapper); Monica Bondoc, Placement Coordinator (Minnie Mouse), Linda Mendiola, Regional Recruiter (’60s hippie girl); and Marissa Martinez, Family Service Worker (2nd Minnie Mouse)

Laredo’s Foster in Texas (FIT) office recently hosted a Halloween party for foster parents and the 75 children in their care. Our FIT staff is always ready to celebrate holidays, and Halloween was no exception.

FIT parties often provide an opportunity to bring siblings together – brothers and sisters living with different foster families – and encourage family interaction. During this particular event, several sibling groups got to play and spend time together.

One of the most special moments of the party came when several guests witnessed a very moving sibling reunion – a child broke into tears when she realized her brother and younger sister were there too! The three of them enjoyed an evening of games and Halloween fun together.

FIT’s Laredo staff, in their not-very-scary Halloween costumes, made everyone feel welcome, served food and made sure all the children had a great time playing with their goody bags and prizes.

A special thanks to the Lamar Bruni Vergara Trust and Foundation for providing funds for this activity.

We appreciate our foster families, and events like this one let them know just how much we do!

Enjoy the photos!

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Fall Festival for Dallas-area FIT Families

Posted by Lonni Swanson || Category(ies): Foster Care, Foster In Texas, Foster Parents

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What do you get when you cross a fire truck with a photo booth and a whole lotta barbecue?

The 2014 Fall Festival for the foster families and children!

On Friday, Oct. 24, our North Texas children and families enjoyed our annual Fall Festival at the Richardson Foster in Texas office. Thanks to the generous support of our community through our 2014 Caring for Kids and North Texas Giving Day events, everyone had a great time!

The farm animal crew, from Wild West Pony Parties, joined in the fun with more than 35 critters and the Richardson Fire Department lent us a fire truck for the evening. Other festival activities included pumpkin and face painting, costume decorating, eating candy and a “spooky” house where kids enjoyed snow cones at the end!

One of my favorite parts of the party was provided by The Cool Booth. Many of our kids are just starting to create positive childhood memories, and there is no easier way to preserve a fantastic evening, than with a photo booth. I know everyone will enjoy looking back at their party pics for years to come!

Many thanks to:

  • Ken Hogan and the Hogan Financial Systems’ team
  • Lisa Mowry and her amazing friends
  • CJ and Melinda Winslow and their Foodtronix and Hope for North Texas teams
  • Bartley’s BBQ in Grapevine
  • Kristene Hostenske and Rejoice Lutheran Church
  • The Richardson Fire Department
  • National Charity League of Richardson
  • North Texas Giving Day’s – Foster In Texas supporters
  • Supporters of Caring for Kids, a Foster In Texas benefit

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Becoming a Family in McAllen: Libby & Jon’s Adoption Story

Posted by Lonni Swanson || Category(ies): Uncategorized

adoption libbyjonrobertOne year ago last September, McAllen couple Libby and Jon arrived at a hospital in Corpus Christi, brimming with anticipation and excitement. They had been notified that Francesca (not her real name) had delivered a boy, and they were about to meet their son. Kristen Ellis, LSS adoption specialist, joined them on their way to the nursery and was ready with all the guidance and paperwork necessary to make this little boy a part of their family. They named him Robert Matthew, and after spending the first night with him in the hospital, left the next day as a family of three.

Libby and Jon began the adoption process in January 2013, and following their training, were matched with birth mother Francesca in July. Francesca had plans to return to school and once she made the adoption decision selected the couple from their family “book.” The birth father, no longer in the picture, waived his legal rights before the baby was born.

In March 2014, six months after Robert’s birth, the adoption was consummated in an Austin courthouse. Robert Matthew and his parents celebrated his first birthday September 16, 2014, with a “Teddy Bear Picnic” among family and friends. He took his very first steps the day before his birthday, and has become a whirlwind of activity. Libby reports that Robert loves music and dancing, and likes to chase their cat Tejas. His best buddies are their boxer Walker and their Brittany spaniel Ranger. The family lives just an hour from Padre Island, and Robert can’t get enough of the beach, and playing in the waves and sand.

Libby and Jon researched several agencies before choosing to adopt through Lutheran Adoption Services of Texas. “We really appreciated the professionalism of Tanya Graham and Kristen Ellis,” said Libby. “They were so helpful walking us through the process, and were very supportive all along the way. Their communication with us was consistently great and the open adoption process was very reassuring, especially when we were able to meet Francesca face-to-face.” The couple maintains contact with Francesca mostly through Kristen, who relays their photos and latest news about Robert.

LSS’ open adoption program facilitates communication between birth and adoptive parents, according to each family’s preferences, and stays in close touch with all parties post adoption. Libby, Jon, and Francesca developed a caring relationship from the time they were first matched, and enjoy receiving news and updates about one another. Libby and Jon prayed for Francesca every day while she was going through a difficult personal crisis, and were elated to learn she is back in school training as a medical technician, and that her two boys (ages 8 and 10) are doing well.

What’s next for Libby, Jon, and Robert? We are happy to report that they are in the early stages of adopting a second child through LSS!

For information, visit our Lutheran Adoption Services in Texas website or call 512-459-1000; 855-482-3678 (after hours).

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Fosterware Party in Victoria

Posted by Lonni Swanson || Category(ies): Foster Care, Foster In Texas, Foster Parents

victoria Fosterware party“You’re invited to our Fosterware Party,” the invitation read. Fosterware parties may take their name from their better-known counterpart, Tupperware parties, but the name shouldn’t detract from the serious nature of the gathering. Fosterware parties are hosted in a fun atmosphere while providing opportunities for guests to learn more about becoming foster parents.

“A Fosterware Party is a chance for potential foster parents to get a realistic picture of fostering, not just from a social worker, but also from previous or existing foster parents,” said Edgar Ricalde, regional director for Foster In Texas (FIT), a program of Lutheran Social Services.  “And we know from experience that many of the best foster parents are the ones who have been recruited by other FIT parents.”

The Haydens, a couple from Victoria who are currently in the process of FIT verification themselves, recently hosted a Fosterware Party in their home for two prospective foster families. One of FIT’s area directors, Paula Vrana, lead the orientation and educated guests on the myths and facts of foster care and adoption. The party included snacks, a door prize and lots of great information – Paula said the party was a big success!

More than 2,000 children depend on us every year to provide safe, loving foster homes – but more homes are needed. Our highest need is for families who can foster siblings and teens. Those interested in becoming foster parents will need to complete many hours of classes in order to become licensed. Visit our site to have one of our 14 offices contact you.


You give them rest. You give them hope. You give them a shoulder to lean on.

Posted by Brenden Scott || Category(ies): Foster Care, Respite Care
The Crabtrees

The Crabtrees


[story by Rebekah Poling, LSS Associate Vice President of Development NTX]

At the 2014 Caring for Kids fundraiser in May, supporting LSS’ Foster in Texas program, your gifts were designated to provide Respite Care for our North Texas foster parents.

I’ve enjoyed interviewing several of our amazing families to find out how their lives have been positively impacted by your generosity – here is what they shared with me:

What type of life events cause you to use Respite Care?

“Work travel time, finding a babysitter during mandatory foster parent training, date night.”

“Spending time alone with biological children or one struggling foster child to reconnect and regroup.”

“Attending a family funeral, and giving the kids a chance to do something fun with a safe, trusted adult – away from foster mom and dad!”

How does Respite Care bless your family?

“It feels great to know that someone truly cares about the parents as well as the children.”

“Because we don’t have many options, we have to leave our children with a daycare-style facility when we are unable to take them with us…whenever we have training…because our approved babysitter list is limited.”

“Honestly, it helps keep the sanity. The stress level of being a foster parent is extraordinary.”

“I have to say that respite care is one of the best things offered through LSS. It allows my husband and I take a much needed break. Although we love what we do, sometimes we need some just ‘us’ time.’”

“Respite has helped my husband and I keep in touch with each other.  It is very important to me to keep a healthy relationship so we can help each other succeed… and have the kids see this.”

What would happen if Respite Care was not provided?

“We wouldn’t be able to take training classes together. The expenses for daycare for our two (an infant and toddler) are more than our foster care reimbursement.”

“As difficult as it is to even find sitters for kids with these type behaviors, trying to find one who is qualified and willing is much more expensive than an ‘ordinary’ sitter.”

What is your favorite part about being a foster parent?

“My children are absolutely my heart and world…Biological, adoptive, foster, etc.; my children are just my children. Who and what would I be without them?”

“These are our first placements…I have never felt more fulfilled in my life. Every time I see one of them accomplish something new with our support, the joy is priceless.“

“Knowing I’m making some kind of difference.”

”Being able to be a part of their lives and make a positive change has been great.  We can show them that you can come from a bad situation and still have and do good things.  I can show them what family life is and that there are still people you can trust. Thank you to all the people who donate to help foster parents succeed!”


Boohaha Bash in Harlingen

Posted by Lonni Swanson || Category(ies): Foster Care, Foster In Texas, Foster Parents

harlingen booHarlingen’s Foster In Texas (FIT) families caught the Halloween spirit last Friday, when the LSS-FIT staff hosted their 3rd Annual “Boohaha Bash” for area foster children. FIT’s Harlingen office has 19 foster families and 51 children in their care, and the Halloween party has become a much anticipated – and truly spooktacular – event.

This year’s party included games, a photo booth, pizza and plenty of yummy treats. The kids trick-or-treated from office to office and showed off their costumes – they all looked super cute! A costume contest selected two winners and awarded each a prize.

Parties like this one present a wonderful opportunity to bring all of the area’s foster families together to socialize and connect. It’s also a chance for siblings who live in different foster homes to reunite. FIT staff note that these are the really special moments, when brothers and sisters can spend time together and play. The Halloween party is all about these deserving kids, and it’s a joy to see.

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Silpada Jewelry Gifts that Give Back – To New Life Children’s Center

Posted by Lonni Swanson || Category(ies): Foster Care

silpada jewelryAre you ready to start counting down the number of shopping days before Christmas? We present an opportunity to bring a philanthropic spirit to Christmas shopping while bringing joy to the girls at New Life Children’s Center.

Between NOW and October 30, 2014, you are invited to shop at an ONLINE SILPADA PARTY, and 30% of the proceeds will go toward a jewelry donation for the silent auction at the “Make a Difference” Gala and fundraiser for New Life Children’s Center. If you’re not familiar with Silpada Designs, the selection of unique, handcrafted sterling silver jewelry is terrific, and it’s very affordable.

Kerrin Gaenzle, a faithful New Life supporter and Make a Difference committee member for 13 years, is a Silpada representative, and this is the sixth year she has hosted a Silpada fundraiser benefiting the New Life girls. We can’t thank Kerrin enough!

Orders placed by Oct. 30 will arrive early November, and come with an extended return policy, so give a gift of glitz to someone on your list.

You’ll be giving a GIFT AND A DONATION, when you shop through THIS LINK: Please send and share this link with all your friends and family so that we can really make a difference for these girls at New Life.

Ready. Set. Shop!


Celebrating With the Thrivent Chapter in Waco

Posted by Lonni Swanson || Category(ies): Foster In Texas

[story by Rebekah Poling, LSS Associate Vice President of Development  NTX]

The Waco area Thrivent Chapter meets every fall to celebrate the amazing NTX Waco Rebekah groupthings their Thrivent Choice Dollars and local chapter sponsorships have been able to accomplish. Thrivent‘s mission is to “Connect faith and finances for good” and they are best known as the financial catalyst to many community projects that are most important to their members.

Each year, the chapter invites all Thrivent Dollar nonprofit and community organization beneficiaries to set up a display table and visit with members. LSS and 10 other cause organizations were invited to this years’ event – approximately 200 members attended.

I was given the opportunity to share the mission and vision of Foster In Texas (FIT), a program of LSS, along with how Waco’s Thrivent Chapter is helping make a difference in the lives of children and families we serve – to break the cycle of child abuse. Because of their Thrivent Dollars, FIT was able to fund trainings, family support events and provided special needs for foster children in the North Texas area.

I felt honored and inspired to meet the other cause representatives doing great work all over North Texas!

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